An Introduction and a Cheer to a New (late) Start
The internet consensus is 2025 actually starts in February with January being an extremely long trial period. Aligning with a community I can't argue against, 2025 goals starts now.
I don't want this self-project to be like those I've attempted in the past. Each project beginning with a tendency to over-plan, over-calculate, over-design, over-obsess, and [enter every other over-verb that I relate to]. The endless amounts of excel and google sheets outlining in excruciating detail of all aspects what I want to achieve created burn out before I even began. I revisit those sheets in the cloud wasteland only at 2am, when my mind slips back to "fix-me" mode. This routine I made for myself is a waste - but I'm a creature of habit.
How will I break this cycle? I've thought about it and my thoughts lead me to these 3 keys:
Accountability: Letting people in when my mind goes hyperdrive
Flexibility: Creating top-line achievable goals that can be morphed and not seen as failure
Balance: Releasing the career obsession that will free up 16 hours other hours of my day not focusing on what I do for 8 of them
This is already an "easier said than done." I am a very private person. I like to know the 5 Ws + H of everything. I want my work to have meaning. The goal is to come to terms with being private and still relying on community. Giving myself targets while leaving room for exploration, rest, and discovery. Finding my own purpose in my current work that may not be headline newsworthy but it's enough to keep me going. Will I have days where I slip to old habits? Absolutely. But I will carry on and on and on.
Since this will be my digital journal, I'm going to write out my wishlist for the year and how that aligns to the 3 key cycle breakers.
Accountability: Letting people in when my mind goes hyperdrive
Created a goal to make 3 new genuine connections.
Making adult friends is hard. How far back in your history do you talk about? Do you describe each phase of your life? Do you integrate with current circles or is adult friends now it's own thing? Who knows.
I won't force a connection so that means realistically I have to make efforts to get to know more than 3 people and not just the first 3 that I encounter. Anyone have stats on that?
Flexibility: Creating top-line achievable goals that can be morphed and not seen as failure
Travel to 10 new destinations, either domestic or international.
I've traveled extensively and more than blown away by what the city has to offer - but did I take advantage of it? Probably not as much as I should have.
I will be traveling with intention. Try to integrate. Try to dive into why locals haven't left. Coming from a city that seemingly has it all and find my heart circles back to NYC all the time - I often wonder how others feel for their towns.
Not every place has to be a major city or one that will impress others, The NYCs, Milans, LAs, etc of the world - while they are great and hold their place, I can visit a new town in the state of New York and be happy with that outcome.
Balance: Releasing the career obsession that will free up 16 hours other hours of my day not focusing on what I do for 8 of them
Try 5 new hobbies that flexes my mind or body
I spend so much time scrolling and soaking in every one elses opinions that it hardly does my mind any peace or justice. I need to get out in the world and try things to see if I like it for myself instead of some redditor telling me if its worth it or not.
I want to try as much variety as possible but there are a few curiosities and introductions I've had that made me enjoy life for a moment, one of those being photography
I came up with the name "successfullytried" as a way to not be too hard on myself. There are no guarantees in life. I might not be able to meet 3 new people. As I mentioned, I won't force a connection for the sake of checking off a box and if I only make one? Awesome! Better than not putting myself out there at all. I might not be able to travel to 10 new places, afterall I have a job, I have parents who might need help, I have friend events I don't want to miss. I might not be able to afford 5 new hobbies. Those can be expensive and I have other priorities for general living, expenses come up all the time,etc. No matter what, I will be able to say I tried and to me that is a success.
Along with this successfullytried named digital journal, I'll also take some visual documentation (photos) of my travels and adventures and throw them up where folks can see on instagram where it lives under the same name.
If you made it this far; thanks! You're probably a friend I sent this link to as a trial run and I appreciate you. If we aren't friends yet or someone who enjoys my word vomit, here is my brief intro to who I am. A dreaded ice breaker:
My name is Vicky
I am currently 28 (I'll edit this as I age)
Born and raised in NYC and has lived in a few other cities briefly
I work a corporate job in finance but not the Patagonia kind
Embrace "Master of None" self-label; I like that it's allowed me to keep conversations interesting
I will talk about my friends a ridiculous amount (while keeping them anonymous) because I am beyond proud of all of them and lucky we crossed paths when we did
Peace for now dudes!
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